Don’t Be A Jerk: The Solution to all Microaggression

“Microaggression” is the newest label the establishment, elites and educated have given to anything that a normal person says or does that offends them.  It is a brilliant use of language along the lines of substituting the word “choice” for being pro-abortion.  Anyone who opposes abortion now has to fight off the accusation of being something inherently anti-American; being against freedom to choose.  Americans are inherentlymeanperson1 laid back too.  This may not be obvious on its surface, but it is true.  We are the people who aggressively pursue innovation and achievement, but we are also the people who are keenly aware of pushiness and rudeness.  Calling someone “aggressive” in anything other than a sports or business environment is saying something about them is really wrong.  The effect of calling an action a Micro Aggression is two-fold; it makes you stop in your tracks because no one wants to be a jerk (the commoners term for an overly aggressive person from the highway to the office building to Wal-Mart) AND it makes you second guess every action because the jerkiness might be so small that only a microscope could see it!  You see how great a word microcaggression is?  Americans are so sensitive to being called a jerk that we are afraid to leave the possibility that even the tiniest part of our lives can rightfully be pointed out as jerky.

The really funny (and by this I mean completely odd and off-putting and out of place and ironic) thing is that the people who are laying this new label on normal people are aggressively aggressive and jerky about anything that disturbs their plastic banana, phony baloney, good time rock and roll lives.  And since they are inherently disturbed there is no and will be no end to microaggressions.  They will always be able to build a new, more powerful electron microscope enabling them to see how offensive the world is.  Building a better microscope is not building a better life; not for the offended, who become more and more over sensitized, and not for the offenders who become more and more paralyzed.  We need a better answer than a label.  We need to bring an end to being offended altogether; if we don’t we will all become jerks.

The way to get rid of jerks is to ignore them.  We used to know this.  We also used to know that giving the time of day to a jerk was the pathway to becoming a jerk ourselves.  Sticks and stones really were the things we needed to worry about, not names.  Names could never hurt us.  But we lost our name.  This is the inevitable consequence of a godless world.  By godless I am not railing like the church lady against the prevalence of “sin.”  I really mean the absence of god.  The more we exclude god from our collective consciousness, the more we lose our identities.  Or I should say, the more we reject god and all the existence of god implies, the more we must become the creators of our own identity – we must make names for ourselves.  We lose the sense of givenness and begin the struggle for self-definition.  The reason the sight of a confederate flag became intolerable last year wasn’t because we’ve grown more as a people, it is because we’ve shrunk.  Our identities are not strong enough to minimize that symbol to fit snugly in the dustbin of history where it belongs.  Now we must be protected from a flag.  Our name is too small to handle it.

What would happen if all of us became acutely aware of an identity that was so real and so permanent and so good that no words flung at us could stick to us and no deeds aimed at making us feel small could put a dent in us??  And what if no one could take away that name?  That would be cool.  That would mean we could not be offended any more by anyone.  How could we be?  Our good and higher name would immediately squash the lesser names.  Our good and higher identity would crush the acts of the bullies and leave them impotent.  The answer to microaggression is to have a name.  We have to quit being jerked around by every name that comes our way; by every deed that seems to minimize our personality.  If only we had someone who would give us this kind of name.  If only someone could reach high enough to make this true.  If only we had a god who would do this for us… If only.

 

Microaggression in an Aggressive World

While we have debates and seminars and create safe spaces for victims of microaggressions it seems few liberals want to discuss the real and increasing use of naked aggression all over a world in which safe space shrinks daily.  The educated and elites spend hours discerning how many offenses can dance on the head of one phrase that commoners have used for ages.  Steve Martin is twitter shamed into deleting a comment on the (actual) physical beauty of Carrie Fisher because it supposedly dishonors the memory of an intelligent, strong-willed woman who also just happened to blatantly use geeky sexuality to sell movies.  Meanwhile a woman in Saudi Arabia was arrested and receives death threats for “disrobing” in public by “gasp” removing her hijab and showingarrogance-aggression-and-assertiveness her face.  The Saudi government is demanding “maximum punishment, and you can be sure they will get it from their misogynistic courts.  Somewhere on a college campus a gay coed is distressed and needs a trip to a stress free zone because they saw another student wearing a Trump red Make America Great Again hat.  In Iraq wherever ISIS occupies territory gay men are gleefully thrown from the roofs of tall buildings, and if the “moderate” Muslims displace the radical killers, gay people can look forward to being stoned instead of falling to their deaths.

There is no such thing as microaggression.  It is a figment of the tiny liberal ego which has so little internal substance that everything it encounters feels like it weighs 100 times the earth’s normal gravity.  Aggression is real.  Hatred is real.  Evil is real.  People who are worried about their delicate constitutions do not turn back real aggression, they invite it.  Real evil has a very keen sense of weakness, especially that kind of weakness that is currently on display in our society which is paralyzing itself over trivialities and trying to screen-shot-2016-12-29-at-12-34-55-pmfind comfort in thumb sucking.  Hitler had the discernment to see it in the Europeans of his day and now the Hitler with a thousand heads discerns it in the Europeans of this day.  Hitler was stopped by a nation slapped out of its comfortable slumber and into action by the brutality of real evil.  Evil ceased to be debated by classroom existentialists and snowflakes and became an existential threat that necessitated real and aggressive action.  We have yet to see if this nation has been slapped into action or just slapped silly. Trump’s election is a good sign that it is the former rather than the latter.

Trump and the NOC List

Trump will be attacked over the Non-Official Cover List.  This will be another attempt to delegitimize him as an incompetent person, unable to be trusted with the nation’s secrets. The effort will come from within the CIA and will involve a rehash of the hack job carried out on the George W. Bush administration when Valerie Plame, a publicly known CIA agent, claimed her identity was leaked to the press by a member of the administration. I am writing and predicting this on the 18th of Dec 2016.

Trump, Fake Intel and the Real Hacks

It is hard to believe that big news can be manufactured news. Hard to think that huge, powerful, and influential organizations would do things based upon small mindedness.  It really is a shame how ignorant of history most people are and how arrogantly we dismiss the lessons of the past.  If I could get any book into the curriculum of every school in America it would be The Rise and Fall of the Third Reich by William Shirer.  If you have difficulty believing that small mindedness can reign among reasonable people, and if you cannot fathom how huge organizations can become weapons of the state against its people, you only need to read about a third of the book to get illuminated.  And we need illumination.

The damage done to our country during the last election is serious, but we aren’t bleeding from the wound the Educated Establishment Elites are trying to tourniquet.  We aren’t bleeding from racism, bigotry, or exclusion, and the wound is not Trump shaped.  No, the serious gushing wound is a free and independent press.  After 8 years of fawning over thehack1 first African American president, and actually demeaning both him and the office he held by failing to hold him to the standards of any previous president, the country has lost confidence in the press.  When journalism begins to be less popular than congress you can be sure there is a major problem.  The campaign only exposed and connected the dots for all the smaller gunshot wounds legacy media delivered to its own feet.  Some examples of the loss of independence of our free press:

–  letting the Obama administration get away with selling guns to drug lords in Mexico without holding them to account even when it led to the deaths of American law enforcement agents.

– letting Obama get away with the outrageous lies he told about Obamacare (ie like your doctor keep your doctor, and deductibles will all go down for everyone) even when the architect of Obamacare openly admitted this was never the plan and called American voters stupid

– letting the Obama administration get away with weaponizing the IRS and using it to demoralize and intimidate its political opponents in the Tea Party even after the IRS admitted it had done this.

These are just a few of the wounds the press inflicted upon itself in the last 8 years.  Americans instinctively know when someone is blowing smoke and we also know when we are being given the “don’t look at that man behind the curtain” Wizard of Oz treatment.  Any of these scandals were enough to end the careers of previous politicians.  Richard Nixon only dreamed of getting away with stuff like this and got impeached and run out of office by the free and independent press for much less.

There was one other story among the multitude of scandal-less scandals of the past 8 years that the press gave a press pass.  It was the politicization of CENTCOM Intel.  The gist of this story is that Intelligence analysts at the US Central Command (CENTCOM) were intimidated and forced out of their jobs for creating intelligence reports that did not line up with administration goals and views of how to handle ISIS in Syria.  Another part of this press passed story is that CENTCOM was creating fabricated intelligence reports in order to make it appear as if the administration’s goals were being met.  I’ve personally worked in the US intelligence community and I’ve had people ask me to adjust my analysis of raw intelligence data to suit a narrative they wanted to pursue.  People with power over your next promotion can be very persuasive.  Why did they do this?  Was it because their bosses in D.C. were pressuring them to do it?  Was it because the leaders of CENTCOM wanted to look good?  We don’t know.  The free and independent press failed to Watergate this story.  They weren’t interested enough to aggressively run it to ground.

So Monday morning we wake up to a story about intelligence reports and Russians hacking and Donald Trump scoffing and the election results questioned.  Would big time media be small minded enough to make up a story to try to delegitimize Trump before he even gets to the Oval Office?? Well we know they gave up on objectivity for 8 years because we watched it happen.  And we know they gave up on objectivity for the campaign because they flat out wrote about it on the front page of the New York Times. What are we supposed to believe?   I believe we the people are going to need to be our own reporters and editors.  We are going to need objectivity and we aren’t going to be able to depend upon a slavish and dependent press to do our thinking for us. We must be vigilant and we must ask the hard questions because the press is either not willing to ask them or too incompetent or blind to see which questions need asking and which answers, as unpalatable to them as they may be are correct.  Trump did not win an election because of Russian hacking, but he made a lot of hay out of the true and small minded hacks in our seriously compromised press.  And the fact that he is the next president is evidence enough to show how truly out of touch and in need of emergency surgery they are.  They are the real hackers and they’ve hacked off their own feet and we are all going to suffer for it.  A free and independent press is essential to our democracy.  A hacking press carrying water for one ideology is essential for fascism.  It has happened before…

Who Killed the NFL?

I know a lot of people blame a third-rate second string quarterback taking a knee in San Francisco for the loss in popularity of the National Football League, but it was a hall of fame super star quarterback’s bent knee that really did the deed.  It was the first game of the 2008 campaign and Brady got hit while throwing a pass.  A defender tried to tackle him while a running back tried to block the defensive player.  Back then the owners of NFL teams tried to field the best teams they could.  They owned teams and players.  They paid the best price they could afford for a quarterback to play the game of football.  Back then quarterbacks dropped back and tried to throw complete passes, blockers tried to stop defensive players from hitting the quarterback, and linebackers tried to hit quarterbacks to keep them from completing passes.  Every body tried to do their job…that sound familiar to you Patriot fans??  But then Brady got hit.   You can take a look at the play for yourself.  Personally I hate watching replays of injuries.  It reminds my body about old aches and pains.

The play is awkward.  In spite of the commentary of the always over dramatic Dan Dierdorf who says Brady took “a tremendous shot” to the knee, it was really just a freak play.  It wasn’t too different from the Lawrence Taylor – Joe Theismann leg breaker.  It was angles and forces and bodies intersecting in a game of controlled violence.  And, just like the LT – Theismann play, there was no penalty on the field and no fine levied against the player who applied the hit.

But something happened on the way to the Emergency Room.  All of a sudden it dawned on the owners that one of the stars of the league was going to be out for the season, and that concerned them.  Were people going to watch NFL games if there were no stars?celebration-flag-master675  Wasn’t Brady’s absence going to cause a fall in ratings?  Shouldn’t they do something to protect their product?  So….the NFL competition committee decided to do something about it.  They instituted a new rule, the Brady rule that basically said you couldn’t do what the defender did when he hit Tom Brady’s knee.

What you need to know about the competition committee is that they meet every year to discuss the rules of the game and other issues impacting how the game is played.  It is made up of a collection of owners, general managers and head coaches of NFL teams, not players and not fans of the game or people who watch the games for entertainment.  All the people on the competition committee earn their living from the game of football as it is played in the National Football League.  You understand what that means?  It means people who are protecting their bank accounts are deciding what the game of football is and what it isn’t.  You have to think about that for a while before you begin to understand why the NFL is dead on its feet.  And it is dead.  They should have paid attention to NASCAR which is another dead sport.

All you need to do is catch a wide angle camera shot of the stands at a NASCAR race these days and you’ll see thousands of empty seats in racing venues that were selling out not long ago.  NASCAR, the National Association for Stock Car Auto Racing began its decline when it decided to implement rules that would make racing more safe and competitive.  They stopped being stock cars (in other words cars outfitted with gear that technically anyone could buy and put in their personal (stock) car) and morphed into sheet metal shells full of high tech custom built mechanical gear.  The rules and procedures they adopted meant the cars were faux stock cars and the races were no longer decided by drivers, they were decided by back room big shots, NASCAR officials and their version of referees making calls on race day.  It is boring and frustrating to watch and the outcome is determined by things fans aren’t interested in.  NASCAR used to be exciting to watch because it was a real competition, now it is an exercise in technical details and sometimes the most interesting thing that happens is that someone gets caught cheating by bending a fender in a quarter of an inch to get a mechanical advantage over the other teams.  And even when that happens NASCAR doesn’t do anything dramatic like taking their race result completely away from them.

The NFL died the day they decided a player was more important than the game.  Brady is a great quarterback and will be in the Hall of Fame – and I hate the Patriots but you gotta give them their due – but he is not the game of football.  When he started to get up from getting popped by a good solid hit and throwing his arms up in the air in the motion of throwing a flag, the game started to disgust me.  Terry Bradshaw would never have thought of doing that (another team and quarterback I hated).  The Brady rule was just the start.  If the quarterbacks were so important, how could they be the stars they needed to be without receivers to catch their passes thrown from the bubble of untouchability?  Receivers had to be protected too.  So we got the “defenseless player” rule to keep them from getting popped too hard.  And if a quarterback’s knees are important, surely his head screen-shot-2016-12-08-at-7-47-55-amis more important so we got the “can’t touch a quarterback’s head area rule.  The game is ruined now and people are trying to figure out why no one is watching.  It is true that while all the rule changes were happening the sports media decided to become social commentators (thank you so much Bob Costas et al) and players did really stupid things off the field (thank you so much Ray Rice et al) and then came the socially aware protests (thank you so much Colin Kaepernick et al), but all those things proceeded out of a weakened structure.  You add in the truly ridiculous replay rules and questions about how many receivers can dance on the head of a pin and the zebras running around having coffee conferences during games and not only is it boring, it is unintelligible.  What is a legal hit and what isn’t?  What is a pass reception and what isn’t?  What is a fumble and what isn’t?  Who can get hit in the head and who can’t?  (that’s a good question to ask Cam Newton and Tom Brady at a presser) Is a touchdown a touchdown if you can’t see the football in a pile of 250 lb men?  Once the game became so diluted that the average fan can’t understand it and they can understand that some egg head with a lot of money is running the show, the game is dead to them.  The NFL committed suicide but its taking a long time to die.  I guess that’s what happens when you bleed out from a gun shot to the knee.

The Americans and How to Stop Being Afraid

Elizabeth: “You know what I wish, as I fall asleep every night? That I’ll wake up and not be worried.”
Phillip: “About what?”
Elizabeth: “Everything.”
Phillip: “You can’t live like that.”
Elizabeth: “Show me another way.”
from The Americans – conversation between two deep cover KGB spies living double lives in America.

Most of us aren’t living double lives like the spies in The Americans. Well, at least we aren’t doing it on purpose. But we do worry a lot. The spies are worried about getting caught; getting exposed for being something they are not. They are always looking at every person and every situation from a posture of threatening their existence. We are worried about…about what? What are you afraid of? The money running out? The kids going off the rails? Your health going down the drain? We look at things threatening us too. What if the economy tears away our livelihood or age or disease steals our health or bad people turn our children into bad people? How will we survive if that happens?? Spies develop elaborate cover stories and engage in activities intended to keep their secrets safe. In The the_americans-1Americans the two main spies have gone so far as to have two children together to make their fake marriage appear real. The children don’t even know they are pawns in international espionage. We have our own cover stories though. We build elaborate defenses to keep us safe and happy. We build financial walls. We pursue education or skills we think will keep us valuable. Some of us do have children because we want to feel our lives are meaningful. The thing you fear the worst will be very close to the thing you believe you can’t live without. And you may go to bed worrying about it on a regular basis.

Worry is strangling in slow motion. Worry will not make you better at your job. Fear will not improve your parenting skills or make you a better lover. It will choke friendships and marriages and keep families from fulfilling their highest goals. It will chain you to places and jobs and people you should leave behind. Fear needs to be ruthlessly eliminated from our lives if we are going to live well.

There is only one solution for getting rid of worry and fear, and it is counterintuitive. The way to defeat our fear is to embrace a higher fear; we must have a huge fear to defeat our little fears. The Bible teaches this. Our fear of everything else is supposed to be swallowed up in the fear of God. We are not supposed to deny the fears one by one. They exist. They are real. Some of our worst fears are going to come true. We don’t deny these things; we deflect them with our fear of God. How does this work? What is fear? It is a focus uponscreen-shot-2016-12-03-at-11-11-42-am some object. It is something we must reflect upon in relation to our lives. If you are afraid of clowns and I tell you there is a clown in your living room, what are you going to do? Stay away from the living room! You’ll go out of your way to avoid that room. Fear is a reference point. Remember what I said about the spies – everything in every situation had to be looked at in relation to their lies and blowing their cover. A new man in the corner cafe reading a newspaper could be the FBI or the CIA staking them out. No rest for them, ever. If you keep your reference point on your bank account, your marriage, or your children, you will be afraid for those things all the time. If you move your reference point to God, you have only him to fear. What is higher than God?

OK – I admit there is a hole in this method of getting rid of fear. If we move our reference point onto God, we also have moved our fear to the person with the greatest potential to destroy our lives. No one has more knowledge or power than God. No one could do more damage. Not only that, how do we know what our relationship is with God? If we are going to reposition everything relative to God, we have to know how that works. How do we know what He thinks of us? How do we know its safe? How do we know that fearing God is any different than fearing anything else? Because of the gospel, we can answer those questions. In the gospel fear is actually turned inside out. Whereas all the other fears (reference points) cause us to build defenses in order to keep the fearful things away, the fear of God lets us take down all the walls. Why? Because the One who had all the knowledge and all the power took all his knowledge and all his power and bent it down to help us, not to destroy us or condemn us. This is the Christian gospel – the good news – and it is either true or it is not. If God did what the Bible says he did for us, we can be sure that none of the things we fear outside of him are fatal to us. Paul sums it up in his letter to the Roman Christians: if God is for us, who can be against us?

So I will show you another way. Believe the gospel. Believe God was and is willing to give up everything to have a relationship with you that is based on love not effort. This is what Christians call being “saved” or being “born again.” Either way, it is a completely different way to live that deals with our fears without denying or suppressing them.

If You Are Gay and Afraid

The couple who came to me for counseling had a typical problem; they were fighting more and more and communicating less and less. They were frustrated and angry. They were afraid. And they were gay. How a Christian minister who believes practicing homosexuality is a sin, found himself counseling a lesbian couple who knew his beliefs is a very long story.  I realize I am opening myself up to a lot of criticism by telling this story. Some gay people may accuse me of using this instance as cover for my thinly veiled homophobia and hatred of everything LGBTQ.  Some Christians may accuse me of accommodating a sinful lifestyle and being a closet liberal (pun intended).  The reason I take the risk now is the same reason I took the risk to counsel this couple back then; it bothers me to see people in pain, especially the pain caused by fear.  I feel like less fear in the world is a good thing, don’t you?

We are told gay people are afraid because Trump won the election.  That is one of the meme’s of the Establishment and Elite and Educated.  Have you noticed it is standard operating procedure for the E, E, and E’s to make monolith’s out of every group and every issue.  All women are pro-abortion.  All Hispanics are for open borders.  All gay people are afraid of Trump… Perhaps one of the greatest things accomplished during the last election monolith_vii_by_grindx-d54ty0tcycle is the thorough discrediting of the legacy media. The “main stream media” as they were called and should never be called again, were exposed as willing organs of politicians, enabling liars to hide and doing their best to create narratives helpful to their preferred outcomes by hiding truth. Did you know that by a margin of 49 percent to 36 percent, Hispanics support a policy causing illegal immigrants to return home by enforcing the law?  If that had been reported honestly before the election would it have made you question how Trump was going to perform among Hispanics and therefore in the election in general?   When you are presented with a headline or a lead item in a news cast that blandly implies a group of people are for something, against something, unhappy about something, or scared about something, question it, don’t just swallow it whole in the neat little propaganda pill they hand you.

All gay people don’t distrust Trump, but some do.  All gay people aren’t afraid of Trump, but some are.  I can see how the LBGTQ community could be confused by Trump.  He’s a New Yorker who has done business in one of the most gay friendly cities in the world for many years.  He invited Peter Thiel, the openly gay co-founder of Pay Pal, to address the Republican convention last summer in prime time, and he seems pretty uninterested in what bathroom people use.  On the other hand he tapped a thoroughly Christian running mate in Mike Pence, the Indiana governor that the LGBTQ community has been told wants to discriminate against them and “convert” them.  When it comes to same sex marriage Trump was against it before he was for it and is for it until he might be against it again. Trump said he was open to appointing Supreme Court justices who might overturn the decision to legalize same sex marriage.  I read an E, E and E article on the subject of Trump and LGBTQ that insisted millions of people are “devastated” and “terrified” by Trump’s election.  Maybe that is so.  Maybe you are gay and afraid.  Maybe you know someone who is gay and afraid. What can you do about it?

First off recognize that fear is a tool people use to get us to do what they want us to do. Fear is a strong motivator. Go look at the shelves in a grocery store the next time a big storm is supposed to come through your area. The shelves get pretty empty even if a storm hasn’t impacted your town in a hundred years.  Fear has low sales resistance. If I can keep you afraid I can keep you buying what I’m selling. Good questions to ask are: who is telling me to be afraid and what do they stand to get out of it?  In the case of the E, E, and E’s they have a lot to gain by scaring us. It’s a major way they maintain power and position. Vote for us, we’re the only ones who care about you.  Read our paper, we’re the only ones who understand you.  Send us your money, we’re the only ones who will fight for you. Implied in all of this is that there is an enemy who doesn’t care about you, doesn’t understand you, and ultimately wants to destroy you.  Who is that?  Seriously.  Who is that?  Who made a family pizza joint in Indiana into the Westboro Baptist Hitler youth?  Who took a wedding photographer and a bakery in the middle of no where and did the same thing?  Why?  If someone thinks Jesus isn’t cool with catering, photographing, or caking your gay wedding is it really the equivalent of showing up at the ceremony with signs that say “Death to Fags”?  It isn’t.  And the corollary that Westboro haters are equivalent to all evangelical Christianity is just as unrealistic.  But some people have something to gain by making us believe those things; by trying to make us afraid of those things.

I know that to some measure the gay wedding business discrimination cases have been used to make a point about equality and to push for it.  As I said in another article, the people promoting the gay agenda have been very successful at shaping and changing public opinion.  The latest poll numbers on gay marriage prove this is true.  Over half of Americans support it.  So there you go, right?  Public opinion is in your favor.  What are you afraid of then?  Trump is going to take away gay marriage?  You won’t be able to get the wedding cake from the homophobic pastry chef?  Really?  No.  I’m going to tell you what you are afraid of.  I learned it in my gay relationship counseling session.  Its a legitimate fear and no opinion poll will help you get over it.  In fact you instinctively know that you don’t want an identity defined by public opinion polls.  Why?  Because we know majorities don’t define right and wrong.  Majorities change.  Majorities don’t offer stability.  Peace comes from stability and fear comes from instability.

When I started to talk with the lesbian couple I asked them about their identities.  Who did they see themselves as?  This is key to understanding the operating principles of relationships.  I knew the one woman well and so I started with her partner.  Before I could say a full sentence the woman said this:  “I am a gay.  I will not listen to anything that suggests I am not gay.  I’ve always been gay and will always be gay.  I would rather go to hell than stop being gay.”  This was the most emphatically anyone ever gave me their identity.  It had the effect of cutting off any further dialogue because what I wanted to get at was a non-sexual, given identity that transcended small, earthly identities.

I want couples to step out of small identities in order to gain perspective on their relationships.  I am honest about my opinion of gay identity, but I don’t need people to agree with me about that in order to see they need a permanent, stable identity.  I’m just as adamant about any temporary identity.  Father, mother, wife, son, daughter. Temporary. One day we are all going to pass into eternity and we will either stand before the Creator or we will fall into nothingness.  Before God we will know who we are perfectly.  As a Christian I believe we can see and accept that permanent identity in the here and now and so I suggest to anyone who needs stability that they can have it in knowing Jesus.  He gives an identity that I don’t maintain. He gives a place that can’t bescreen-shot-2016-11-29-at-11-26-47-am taken away by popular opinion.  He equalizes what doesn’t add up.  Jesus is the answer for fear.  I will tell you what I told my gay friends; I know you’ve thought and felt and believed you were gay from a very young age.  Who am I to tell you that you are not gay?  I know someone who can tell all of us who we are and he isn’t interested in scaring you into believing it (yes this is true in spite of what you may have heard “Christians” say).  He experienced all of hell to make  sure you and I wouldn’t have to.  He lost his identity completely so you can have an identity that will never be taken away.  If you are deceived about being gay he can tell you in a way you can receive.  If you are gay he can help you understand how to live a full life as a gay person.  Most of all he has nothing to gain from you at all.  He is a king and more wealthy than you can imagine.  He has all power and reputation and influence.  He doesn’t need you to affirm or set or participate in his agenda.  He already revealed his whole agenda.  It is this:  perfect love casts out fear.  That’s it.  “Jesus loves you” isn’t a bumper sticker.  It is either God’s whole agenda or it is a complete farce.  Gay, straight, man, woman, child.  You are perfectly loved.  You do not have to be afraid.