A great habit to be in when writing is this: when you are really blocked and can’t seem to find the way forward, sit back and ask yourself ‘What do I really want to say here?” It sounds stupid but it works. It is easy to get lost trying to figure out how to say something just right and forget what we were saying in the first place. This works in relationships too. We get so wrapped up trying not to hurt someone’s feelings or making sure we say something perfectly. Take a step back. Assess the situation. Feel what you really feel. Think about what you’d really like the other person to know. Say it as clearly and kindly as you can. This is not only the “grown up” way to speak to each other, it is the way we help each other grow up into fullness in Jesus – both by the saying and by the hearing of truth spoken in love.